Tuesday, 15 November 2011

Handle me with care!

Every child is unique and must be treated accordingly. What actually explains or talks about behavior problems in one may not be in another. What treatment works for one, may not work for another.
Is bad behaviour the result of bad parenting, spoiling a child, lack of discipline, anxiety, depression etc.?
I guess, understanding the root cause of behaviour problem in a child is critical yet very important too. Many people make mistake and too often adopt the old standard theories and treat the child with a purely “behavioural approach”
Disciplining methods such as rewards, consequences, bribes, negotiations, time outs and manipulation are actually at times the least effective methods for disciplining a child.Sitting your child down for lecture and trying to force him to take responsibility are actually not the right method to teach or train your child for manners, respect or good behaviour.

Behaviour problems are something all the parents and teachers across the world are dealing with. Many children exhibit anger, aggressiveness or violent behaviour typically to release stress. Tantrums can often have healing effect on excessive stress. Behaviour problems in children typically stem for stress, unhappiness as well as slew of psychological reasons.
The natural response for a child who observes something is to act out what they see. He/she is like an open vessel, who absorbs, learns and act out of what he/she observed.

It seems like common sense, but do respect your child, understand and go to the root cause of the problem and help your child to fight with his own emotions.
A child asks just for love, care, emotions and affections. And simply expects and says
Handle me with care”

Last but not the least, it reminds me of few lines by John Watson
Give me a dozen healthy infants, well-formed, and my own specified world to bring them up in and I’ll guarantee to take any one at random and train him to become any type of specialist I might select — doctor, lawyer, artist, merchant-chief and, yes, even beggar-man and thief, regardless of his talents, penchants, tendencies, abilities, vocations, and race of his ancestors”.

Sunday, 13 November 2011


It is rightly said,"What comes out of your mouth is determined by what goes into your mind". Our society is more negative than positive. Our conversations at home accentuate the negative. Unfortunately, a negative thinker activates the world around him negatively, and every bit of negativism he sows produces a bumper crop. Albert Einstein said we have to have seven positive influences to overcome one negative one.

Change emphasis - change results. Take one day and after each encounter jot down the gist of the conversation. I promise you, by the end of the day your comments will be more positive than they were at the beginning. Once we become aware of what we are doing, the solution is on its way.