Being Digitally Aware!..

Dear reader

A few years back, while working on an assignment, I happened to delve deeper into the scope and content of integrating technology in the classroom. With my limited knowledge and experience of digital world, I began my journey and started exploring tools and even interacting with the educators around the world. The never ending conversation on the contextual learning and what is more important for the students to know in this era became the most intriguing experience for me. However, I do not claim that I have done  much work in this area, but I surely possess a great interest and passion to bring about the awareness in the student community, to be cautious, careful, and balanced while stepping into this digital territory.

Time flies so quickly. I remember in 2011, students in the class, were given an exposure to different tools for presenting their work. They were learning to operate their devices and trying to make sense of the information available on net. On the other hand, teachers used various backchannel tools to record students’ responses and their questions. Also, looking at various means to make the ICT integration more useful and contextual for the students. The thrill and excitement in students was unbelievable.

And now when I look back, it seems we have come a long way and there is still a milestone to achieve. I have witnessed a great change in students and teachers understanding about this small world of technology. An exposure of ICT as a means to demonstrating through ways of thinking is achieved as compared to mastering of tools. Now, both the communities, students as well as teachers are well prepared and ready to use ICT for language and skills development.

But is that what we all want? Is that what we are looking for? The simple answer to these question is Not really. We all know that living and working in any society comes with both rights and responsibilities. Thus, simply teaching our young students how to use different tools or technology is never going to be enough; we must ensure that they also learn to use it more wisely, ethically, safely, and responsibly. Teachers and Parents have a significant role to play in raising these young creative thinker in this digital world. It is imperative that children are guided to make informed and ethical choices while acting with great integrity and honesty. In this globally connected virtual world, children must be entrusted to be responsible for their actions. Infact, they should be guided to value others’ rights and to practise safe, legal, and responsible behaviour.

Digital citizenship is a concept to prepare our children and technology users for a society full of technology. Our children grow through an expeditious growth in their learning about many things including technology. They are required to be able to connect and communicate 24/7; they start from playing games on their parents’ cell phones to learning how to participate in a connected digital culture. As we expend more time online, it is critical to understand how to stay safe online. Young people in today's time live in a world drenched with information and supplements. Undoubtedly, children’s inquisitiveness for various devices and their exploration journey about this digital world is quite alarming. They need guidance and support from their parents and teachers to affirm that they make the right choices. It may so happen that their abilities to perform in this information age is beyond their maturity and intellect. Parents must share some time talking to the students about  consequences and impact of their actions.

In the present time, it’s challenging to decide as to how much independence and flexibility to give kids. As parents and teachers, we definitely want them to communicate, and connect more legally and ethically. If our kids are going to shine and prosper with the concept of digital citizenship , we must balance the privacy with protection. Today children requires more autonomy and privacy; therefore they must be guided how to protect their identity and be safe online.

Always be approachable and keep an open mind. We don’t look at the world through the eyes of our children. They have a completely different view about the way things work and move in their lives. And often we get swayed with our emotions and narrow thinking; we don’t help children when we analyse their lives through the lens of a non digital world. It’s important for us to realize that our children will invest much of their lives in a connected world, where everyone will make every effort to create their own mark. As a parent, the most excellent means to encourage our children is to ensure they understand their role as netizens and build on the concept of being responsible digital citizens. We must educate them about the benefits and risks of using technology. Just as we help them to stay safe in the real-world.

At fountainhead, we are constantly endeavoring to achieve our goals in this area and we surely seek your support to make a difference in our child’s life and our society at large.

(Published in the Fountainhead School's Magazine - 2017)

Parents as Role Models

All Children are born innocent, like an empty book which still has to be written in. Their parents, friends, as well as their environment determine what their life story will be. Can a child feel unloved, helpless and hopeless, that he will attack those around him? Are our children growing up without dreams? who is responsible for this anger within them?
Children need adults who are role models of positive behaviour. We need to consider our actions. Children copy what we do. Take a look in the mirror. Do you like what you see? What are your morals and values? Are you teaching them to your children?
Children need mentors. We should take the time to talk with them. Since the breakdown of teh extended family, children are spending less time with the people that love them. In many families, both parents are working long hours and are either too stressed, tired or disinterested to bond with their children. Society and business have a responsibility to provide families with time and support so that this fragile relationship can be nurtured.
All children are born with an instinctive desire to learn and explore their world, and it is our responsibility as adults to encourage this.

Kids learn how to handle stress from you...

                          

Being a parent is indeed a very joyful and rewarding experience. But parenting can be very stressful. As there are times in everyone's life where you have some different priorities/committments to work on, and life becomes full of hassles.The stress of caring for children makes parents feel angry, anxious and stressed out.

Most parents do have high expectations of how things should be - we all want perfect family and worry about how our children will turn out. Here, let us remember one thing that there are no perfect children  and no perfect parents. All children misbehaves sometimes. Parents can make mistake. Therefore, have a realistic attitude, spend some time to understand your children, develop good relationship, learn to recognize the symptoms of stress and how can you cope up.

Coping with the stress of parenting starts with understanding what makes you feel stressed. We all have reactions to life's events which are based on personal histories. But irrespective of our emotional tension or worries, we need to remember that its not our children's fault. We need to learn to keep our stress reactions under control.

For that matter, you can make time for yourself, read good books, exercise daily, have good/healthy food on time, do not skip your meal, avoid fatigue, have good sleep, take short naps when you can, share your worries not only with your friends or someone whose close to you but also with your children in a very polite and calm manner.

Handle me with care!

Every child is unique and must be treated accordingly. What actually explains or talks about behavior problems in one may not be in another. What treatment works for one, may not work for another.

Is bad behaviour the result of bad parenting, spoiling a child, lack of discipline, anxiety, depression etc.?

I guess, understanding the root cause of behaviour problem in a child is critical yet very important too. Many people make mistake and too often adopt the old standard theories and treat the child with a purely “behavioural approach”

Disciplining methods such as rewards, consequences, bribes, negotiations, time outs and manipulation are actually at times the least effective methods for disciplining a child.Sitting your child down for lecture and trying to force him to take responsibility are actually not the right method to teach or train your child for manners, respect or good behaviour.

Behaviour problems are something all the parents and teachers across the world are dealing with. Many children exhibit anger, aggressiveness or violent behaviour typically to release stress. Tantrums can often have healing effect on excessive stress. Behaviour problems in children typically stem for stress, unhappiness as well as slew of psychological reasons.

The natural response for a child who observes something is to act out what they see. He/she is like an open vessel, who absorbs, learns and act out of what he/she observed.

It seems like common sense, but do respect your child, understand and go to the root cause of the problem and help your child to fight with his own emotions.

A child asks just for love, care, emotions and affections. And simply expects and says
“Handle me with care”

Last but not the least, it reminds me of few lines by John Watson
“Give me a dozen healthy infants, well-formed, and my own specified world to bring them up in and I’ll guarantee to take any one at random and train him to become any type of specialist I might select — doctor, lawyer, artist, merchant-chief and, yes, even beggar-man and thief, regardless of his talents, penchants, tendencies, abilities, vocations, and race of his ancestors”.